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Meow

Meow

Lovers, I have fire fire photos coming your way this month 😻..

Lovers, I have fire fire photos coming your way this month 😻😻 anything you want more of??

Serving cunt 🍯 ✌🏻

Serving cunt 🍯 ✌🏻

Do you need me to iron your shirt, baby?

Do you need me to iron your shirt, baby?

A little lip slip anyone?💋

A little lip slip anyone?💋

Well ain’t it just silly ole me again getting sweaty in the ..

Well ain’t it just silly ole me again getting sweaty in the sauna 🥵

Please, make me do the laundry 🌶️

Please, make me do the laundry 🌶️

What would you do if you saw me out here in the wild?

What would you do if you saw me out here in the wild?

7 am tub action good morning lovers

7 am tub action good morning lovers

Something so many misunderstand about me is how soft & tende..

Something so many misunderstand about me is how soft & tender I am. But if you really knew me, you’d know I’m delicate, slow & so beyond sensual.

Word on the street is you like 📹

Word on the street is you like 📹

Thinking of you in this xtra hot shower

Thinking of you in this xtra hot shower

Midday baths are my favorite 💦

Midday baths are my favorite 💦

What would you do if you saw me in the airport ?

What would you do if you saw me in the airport ?

But what do you think of the new chest & neck piece ?

But what do you think of the new chest & neck piece ?

Got something new today

Got something new today

What I look like when I finish a gym session 👅

What I look like when I finish a gym session 👅

Xxxxtra muscles these days

Xxxxtra muscles these days

Tell me about your weekend lovers

Tell me about your weekend lovers

You can always find me hereGetting xtra hot x sweatyAs the n..

You can always find me here

Getting xtra hot x sweaty

As the necklace says…

God’s Favorite CUnt

I want to get straight to my point…If we don’t have flexibil..

I want to get straight to my point…

If we don’t have flexibility in our ANS - the ability to down & up regulate - we’ll miss countless opportunities for true intimacy with our lovers.

I see this constantly in relationships & $3xual dynamics:

one person is anxious & stuck in sympathetic

& the other feels like

‘hey hi I can’t feel you here with me’

..bc when we’re stuck in that state, we can’t slow down enough to feel subtlety.

We can’t attune to our lover’s body, bc we’re disconnected from our own.

True intimacy gets missed.

(If we never learned self-regulation, we’ll struggle to coregulate, & our $3x will suffer.)

We end up touching our lover like WE want to be touched (we can’t hear their tissues),

using their body as a means to get somewhere / accomplish something,

wondering if they like it too,

WHILE simultaneously feeling self conscious about being too selfish.

Familiar?

Now, bringing preference to intimacy is needed —we want to share our desires & turn-ons/offs—AND

we need curiosity about our lover’s blueprint, clarity on “Who is this moment really for?” (see Betty Martin’s Wheel of Consent), & awareness of where our maps intersect.

But if we’re stuck in fight, flight, fawn, or freeze, our erotic experience will be limited.

The good news:

$3xuality is the most powerful vehicle for ANS flexibility & healing.

..the most efficient & effective way to reset.

It rewires the brain & body by speaking directly to the brainstem (hello, neuroplasticity),

The key is curiosity, attention & presence.

This creates attunement.

Which creates the experience of really truly SEEing & BEing with someone, & ourselves.

This is vulnerability.

And that, creates real intimacy.

We need ANS flexibility for that.

On my way to flog you into oblivion 🌶️

On my way to flog you into oblivion 🌶️