Oh hello humans,
There are many new ones here.
For those just joining the fuckery - welcome! I would love to know how you found me.
For those who have been here a while, if you remember I’d love your feedback as well.
Just like shedding shadows, accessing light is an active non-linear process.
Direction and velocity are so subjective that there is no "way"
This used to fck up my neuro-divergent brain.
"How do you do life right?"
Answer: There is no answer
🙃 DOES NOT COMPUTE 🙃
When one wants system and order, a blank piece of paper can feel like a nightmare (or am I alone in this trigger)?
Working through darkness is chaotic and painful, but there is a bit of a "road"...to the light.
Then you do all that stuff, you get to the light and you're met with space, opportunity and freedom.
"Well fck...what do I do with you new characters?"
A whole different mind spiral opens up.
But this one goes up.
Grounding down must be met with opposition to create the polarity of the human.
Down gives us stability
Up gives us possibility
We need both to thrive
Much of both had been stripped of us in recent years.
Be patient and kind to yourself as you remember who you are.
My posing always reflects my inner state.
Initially I was trying to figure out a way to pose this tie as some sort of false suspension - but I could never seem to nail the framing or the shape.
As soon as I starting thinking about how I actually felt that day, what came to mind was "crawling up the stairs with your legs tied together."
So I decided to give that a go instead.
And sure enough, at least to me, it worked a lot better.
>>> Swipe to turn around and bend over <<<
I self-tied and self-shot for the first time in over a year.
I've been so disconnected from all my creative practices - and I've certainly felt it in my mind.
This day I woke up, the light was just beautiful and I spent the entire thing flailing around alone with my camera and rope.
Here are some of the results.
It is Sunday Bumday and I am sharing one of my favourite sets of images.
Or rather a very specific focus of them.
This was the first time Max and I were captured having sex and we were obsessed with the results.
Sunday Bumday will now feature the butts from that shoot.
Disclaimer: I experience s3xual dysfunction.
Within my own brain and my relationship with myself.
Within my relationships with people of all genders.
Physically
Emotionally
Socially
The experiences you see in the content before you did not come to me easily.
I worked hard.
I made a lot of mistakes.
I cried a lot of tears.
I felt a lot of hurt.
I still work hard.
To question my conditioning.
Challenge my inner dialogue.
Explore what scares me.
And undo toxic narratives.
This is forever work.
There is no destination.
Just a desire for different.
BONUS SLUT STUDY SESSION: Tangible Tips For Opening Up Sexually
Once upon a time I saw a beautiful bi boy on the internet and thought “wow I’d love to do terrible things with and to him” and then did absolutely nothing with that thought from within my monogamous relationship — including admit to it.
Fast forward 24 months and I’m sitting on @mrdexparker's face dripping period 🩸 into his mouth, waiting for my partner to come home...and we’re all pretty excited about this.
And now I’m going to try and explain everything that happened in between…
*big breath*
Opening up s3xually can feel like waxing your butth0|e.
It feels unnatural, but if you’re doing it to yourself — it is also elective.
On some deeper level, the pain resonates as a worthwhile endeavor — so you continue.
And ultimately if you are following your gut, you are correct.
The pain you are moving through will lead you to your desired outcome.
Or at least that’s what it felt like for me...
Read the full post on the Make Love Not Porn blog
https://makelovenotporn.medium.com/?p=2e27ef429326
SLUT STUDY SESSION: Bisexuality
This is a talk I recorded for Cheex about identifying as a bisexual and what that journey has been like in my life.
How do you identify?
Posing/Flailing
When I'm trying to find a frame or shape I like - I set up a video and just see what happens.
When I went to retrieve my phone, it was being babysat by a toad.
How simple we seem
or at least pretend to be in front of others
and how twisted we are deep down
How paltry we are and how spectacularly we contort ourselves before our own eyes, and the eyes of others
All for what?
To hide what?
To make people believe what?
― Roberto Bolaño
(The photographer paired this quote with this image and I thought it was a great combo)
Questions from Reddit
Would you rather always have a unibrow but hogwarts is real and you get to go, or m33t your soulmate but have to repeat kindergarden through 12th grade.
POWER POSING TUTORIAL
This clearly had a different purpose for a different platform, but if you're looking to inject more intensity into your imagery, the tips still apply!
Would you rather (from reddit)
Stick a toothpick under your big toe's toenail and kick a wall
or have to sit in a very small room filled with 1,000 spiders for an hour
NEW Slut Study Session: Thrusting Lesson with @mrdexparker
We decided to get together for a test run and to film our promo material.
And Dex just decided he was going to put me through a full workout for me to get 30 seconds of material...
I broke into a full sweat and felt my quads all day.
This class is going to show you all the muscles you didn't know you could use to fuck.
Our Live Thrusting Lesson will be November 9th @ 11AM PST
Hosted by Cheex
https://getcheex.com
About the platform
CHEEX is a new community for everyone who is curious about sexual stimulation and education. Beyond that it is a space that m33ts women’s needs when looking for pornography. They strive to depict sexuality in a way that is close to reality: diverse, fun and consensual.
My movement practice has been so much slower lately.
It's felt like everything else around me is moving at an uncontrollable speed.
So this has been the place I can take everything down to a regulated rhythm.
And just be with my breath.
I've been trying to give fewer fucks and work up the confidence to move wherever I want - regardless of who is around.
But it's hard to let go when you have an audience you don't really want.
There's just too many good backdrops to move in front of and logs to crawl on to pass it up though. So...I'll keep working at it.
And eventually...start taking my pants off.
My first solo day trip
It was a little colder than expected and I’m really grateful I got up extra early to buy a hat 🙃
Eventually the city will start to wash off 😅
I've been a lot quieter on here because my whole world has truly been changing.
This month I moved from a city of 3 million to 10,000 and my daily commute is now to the wood pile that's making me it's bitch.
I'm so excited to share more of where I am and what's to come - because for the first time in literally years - I actually feel excitement about those things.
However for now I'm trying to be selfish and taking them for myself.
One of those things that I've craved has been a digital detox.
I've made the majority of my income online and on social media for the last decade and this shit storm gets existentially exhausting.
If you ever want to try on depersonalization/derealization, try simultaneously developing multiple online brand identities.
My brain has been screaming for a break that I've truly never been able to afford it.
So a month ago I deleted everything off my phone that I didn't need.
No social apps.
No email.
No chat apps.
Just music.
Nav.
And a phone.
And I f0rced myself to be present.
Both with myself AND with social/email/chat apps.
There's so much passivity in the world.
In how we do our jobs.
In our sex.
How we ask for what we want.
When was the last time you took a break from the continuous scroll?
Most of my modelling is either yoga or stimming.
I know how to be symmetrical and strong.
Or a pile of chaotic limbs.
But I certainly can’t portray a human.
Can you spot the bigger breast?
It’s probably a half-size larger than the other.
‘Cause nature has a sense of humour like that and everything on your body are sisters, not twins